So let me help all my fellow Lotus Evora owners.
I was ready to drive all the way to NJ for this but I wasn't giving up. I knew that Lotus would not have enough airbag development money to make something so unique that not even the best scanners could figure out. Well after speaking to a few dozen lotus mechanics who reiterated that in fact you have to use the lotus scanner, I got no where.
But then I bought a scanner off of Amazon Foxwell NT 630. It does not have Lotus anywhere in the menu but after doing some deductive reasoning I narrowed it down to Vauxhall, Toyota, Chevy, and Ford Europe. One after another failed to communicate. Then I figured who is the cheapest Asian car maker that would have a bin-full of airbags for the US market but no cars and I remembered Daewoo. Well on this scanner they have Daewoo. And two choices. the correct choice was Gentra. And sure enough not only did it recognize the car and connected to it, then I get the beautiful message "Do you want to erase?" what beautiful words.
So anyone out there that has this issue, here you go. BTW I bought mine from Amazon Prime because I wanted it quickly so I probably paid too much for it ($150). You can probably be more selective.