I enjoyed reading your post. It's interesting about the difference in experience dealing with the Murcielago and the Countach owners.I dont feel the need to do anything SPECIAL with or because of this car.
Yes, I keep my car impeccably clean - I keep ALL my cars impeccably clean. As well as my house, my office and all of my man parts. I'm a clean freak - that's how I roll. Hell, bring a washmitt and two microfiber towels and about $3 in quarters to a self wash and the car is clean in 7 minutes wit no clean up.
That being said, I feel no special need to adhere to any 'code of conduct' with this car. Is it an exotic? I think so. Like others have said - like porn or love, you can't define it, but you know what it is when you see it. If 98% of the public thinks it's exotic, it's exotic. Most people go batsh*t for these cars or Lambos, etc because they are rare and RARELY see them. That's the same reason they don't even look when a 911 goes buy - they have seen them a million times over (same body style for 732 years!).
I do however, just use common courtesy. If people wanna take pics or have a little kid sit in it - sure thing. A) because I'm a nice guy and B) when I was a kid, I wish exotic car owners would have let me. That one pic with a kid could make that kid's day. Why not? As long as people aren't dbags (and there are TONS of them), I'm cool and happy to oblige.
I'll give a story - many in the Chicago area know Carla - she's this tiny 40ish Italian woman who owns an Ithaca Green Murci Roadster with 'BAD BULL' plates. That car turns heads like no other and many have seen it around (she drives it a lot). My 11 year old nephew is a certified car nut and huge into photography/video. He actually took a picture of her car in a Caribou Coffee parking lot and blew up a really cool angle of it with the BAD BULL plate. Very artistic and cool. He's got it on his wall along with pics of my car, a McClaren F1 and Zonda R and a few others. Anyhoo, I mentioned this to her at a Supercar Saturdays event and she gave me a look like I was retarded - btw, my nephew was standing next to me!! I was taken aback. Who knows, maybe, like a ball player or celeb, she's tired of questions and/or attention, but it comes with the territory. Drive a flourescent green $450K car and people are gonna magnet to you.
By comparison, this really cool dude had a white Countach about 3 cars down from hers. He let my nephew sit in it with full scissor door up mojo. Kid had a massive smile on his face and it's his Facebook profile pic!
Our cars aren't $400K Lambos, but right or wrong, they DO illicit the same response. I keep that in mind. What grown up doesn't like putting a smile on a kid's face?
That's part of the reason I bought my silly little Mini Moke. Is it rare? You betcha. 99.9% of people have no idea what it is. With the Elise, I get the 'how much did that cost' question the most With the Moke, I get 'what the hell is that?'. I love it. It's fun. It make people smile. All for about $2K. That's what cars should do. I've had that thing for 2 months and I've probably driven 40 different neighborhood kids around in it.
Crazy story - was a our local water slide pool place the other day and a lady who heads up Chamber of Commerce was there with her kids. Her daughter and my 20 month old son were playing in the sand together while my wife and her shot the breeze. My little Moke is in the lot but totally visible from where they were sitting. Lady says 'wow, that looks like fun', to which, Mrs SwingLo replies 'yeah, it's my goofy husband's'. I walk up a few minutes later and she asks all about it. She then says 'got a weird question for you. Would you be interested in driving it in the 4th of July downtown Parade on Monday?'. So, that's what I'm doing tomorrow morning. I'm heading out to Party City to buy streamers/flags/etc to do it all up! Got an email from her late last nigh saying that a) I'll most likely be in the FRONT of the parade right before some old vintage fire truck and b) one of our local politicians may be riding in the car with me throwing out candy!!!
Oh, and my suburb has about 48,000 residents. There are well over 150,000 people in the immediate area (western Chicago burbs) and apparently this is a VERY well attended parade. I was have an absolute blast. My kids will have a blast and have a lifelong memory of being waved at by 10,000 people and I will make little parade watchers smile.
THAT, my friends, is why I have that car. THAT is worth more to me than any code of conduct.
BTW - this is my silly little Mini Moke (getting a full resto this winter):
I've had similar experiences with older exotic car owners vs newer ones. I've been to a few cruises in the two years that I had my Elise and the four most exotic cars I've encountered are an F355, Diablo SV, F430 and Bentley CGT. I chatted with the owner of the Diablo for a good 15 minutes and he was extremely happy to talk about the cars and was actually very interested in the Lotus. I didn't chat with the owner of the F355 as long, but he was a very nice guy and complimented my car. However, the owners of the F430 and Bentley seemed to look down their noses and me and didn't want anything to do with a lowly Lotus owner. Kind of acting as if it was an insult that my cheap $58,000 semi-exotic was in their presence.
Maybe it's just a coincidence, but I've found the owners of older exotics to be much more of "car guys". However, this is just from limited experience and I'm sure there are many exceptions to this trend.